They told Me to Write a Poem (Spoken Word)


They told me to write a poem,

one to celebrate the art of rhymes,

structures and creating



I’ve always hated the ritual

of celebration,

its infatuation done wrong.

My poem was awful,

shameful and



They told me to write

something beautiful.

My body was my blank canvas,

and I wrote the words

to my life.

I carved out the paths,

echoed out my tales,

told them something


I wrote them lines

of dreams and

stanzas of nightmares.

They did tell me to

write something


My writing skewed as I

recalled my past,

and felt the tears

of regret stain

the page.

They tried to wipe

them away,

but it was something


I recalled every bruise

and scar,

I pointed to my

stretch marks and

they were beautiful.

They asked me why

I was doing this.

I couldn’t answer as

my words stopped in my

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University administrators allow fraternities to turn colleges into rape factories

Watching the Wheels

Aug. 31, 2015

When I was an undergraduate at Emory University in Atlanta, the fraternities had a little Sunday morning ritual called the “Walk of Shame.” After all the big Saturday night parties, brothers would drag lawn chairs into the front yards of their campus frat houses and berate women who were walking down Frat Row, heading home the following morning. Many of them would hold up cards ranking the women’s attractiveness from zero to 10.0 in what one frat called the “slut Olympics.” Odds are that some of those women were the victims of date rape but none deserved to be devalued in that way. But that was the 1980s. Stuff like that doesn’t happen anymore, right?


Lately news stories of rapist frats have to compete with news stories of racist frats so it’s easy to get confused. Last week’s story about the banners hanging on the Sigma Nu house…

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Falling through the branches of the Ladybrain Tree


Years ago, back when New Labour were desperately trying to justify the invasion of Iraq, I remember the arguments being compared to a monkey falling from a tree. He clings to one branch (WMDs), but that branch breaks, so then he grasps on to the next (humanitarian principles). The branches keep on breaking but he keeps on believing that this one, the one in his hand right now, will hold firm. Crash, crash, crash. He does not learn from experience because it is not in his interests to learn. It is in his interests to cling on for as long as possible.

I’m reminded of this whenever the topic of male and female brains arises.

The belief that male and female brains are inherently different has been around for thousands of years. The same cannot be said for any proof. We know that there is another possible reason — perceived reproductive…

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Feel like laying blame?

Want to blame all Muslims / Islam for all the extremists?

Then by that logic…..

Blame all men for rape

Blame all children for playground bullying

Blame all Christians for George Bush

Doesn’t sound fair? That’s because it isn’t.

Dutch cabinet approves partial ‘face-covering clothing’ ban

continued oppression of human rights then… this time by the dutch. great.
A friend of mine who is an atheist no less, still believes that it is a woman’s right to wear whatever she wants, whenever she wants.

Ned Hamson's Second Line View of the News

The Netherlands has taken a major step toward introducing a partial ban on wearing face-covering garments in some public places. The move is seen as targeting the full-face Islamic veils worn by some Muslim women.

via Dutch cabinet approves partial ‘face-covering clothing’ ban.

Major fail by Dutch!

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solidarity in the 4th wave?

Exactly Gemma, we are all learning. Part of that seems to me to be about not feeling ashamed. Shame is a big part of this. We can only defeat it if we pull together.


As I’ve learned more about sexual objectification and the damage of gender roles over the past few years, it has become clear how much it affects society, predominantly women, in different ways. From victim blaming, unequal parental responsibility, rape and domestic violence – and the victim blaming that comes with it. There has yet to be a day without an example of it in the news every single day. They are huge issues affecting most, if not all women and girls every day. My social media and contacts are filled with those who claim to feel just as passionately about changing the world for the better by making a stand against these issues but there are a few problems, Tokenism, picking and division,
Tokenism. This is the most frustrating for me. I hear you care about this stuff too. I hear you want violence against women to be addressed and this is great! Lets…

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Switch over to the Itsy Bitsy network…



No slave is ever freed, save he freeth himself.

~~ Smart Bee ~~

Artist’s rendition of Mars One Colony outpost: picture from

It won’t do. It simply won’t do…. Unless, of course, it does, in which case, we have no opening…. SIGH. Well, ffolkes, I seem to have done it again…. Here I am, clueless as to how to begin, again, with a large amount of blank white covering the screen, and, my mind’s inner vision…. I wouldn’t want to put any blame for this anywhere it doesn’t belong, but, pretty soon, I’m going to have to assign a scapegoat of some kind, to get rid of all this angst; at least, then, I’d have something to feel guilty about….

I must say, though, I’m not much into guilt, having decided long ago it’s a pretty useless emotion, based generally on misconceptions of entitlement having nothing to do…

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A few thoughts on #NoMorePage3

Yes. Agreed. NMP3 members do not think that sex workers are wrong, they do not think that nakedness is bad.
We simply don’t think that bare boobs in a national family newspaper is appropriate.

A Bit of Class

So. The Sun has dropped, or sort of dropped, Page 3 in it’s current incarnation, and feminists everywhere are either rejoicing or snarking.

I have seen so much snark last night and today. I like snark and am a champion of throwing shade, it’s kind of fun and most of us deserve it at some point.

But when all feminist debate is centred around being sarcy enough to score points on Twitter, it gets a bit daft and no good comes of it.

Particularly as a) actual debate is good for feminism, and b) it’s of course perfectly understandable that some people have concerns about the campaign and that some people want to voice those.

I got GMB trade union to back the No More Page 3 campaign, and I and the NUJ reps in my workplace also had The Sun removed from our break areas after our members complained…

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Footballers, Prostitutes and Feminists

Not The News in Briefs

This week the story of Ched Evans, the Sheffield United footballer convicted of rape, has been all over the news. Debate has been centred around whether on release from prison he should get his old job back, and the feminist position has been largely that no, he shouldn’t: as a highly-paid footballer he has a privileged position as a role model to young people, especially boys, and his reinstatement would be to minimise the damage he has done and to reinforce a structural misogyny within football. There is broad agreement amongst feminists that the message this would send out would be detrimental to women as a whole.

Judging from the accounts of the case I have read, the 19 year-old victim was picked up in a drunken state by a man who then texted his friend that he’d ‘got a bird’. She was then taken to a pre-booked hotel room…

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